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I am a Rock Star! Hear Me Yodel!

I may not sing like Madonna or like Janet Jackson, but I have been learning to belt out a tune here or there for my favorite little fan.  In my daughter’s eyes, I am a rock star and I sing quite a pleasant tune. Normally, I do not enjoy musicals nor do I like karaoke, but lately I have been finding that singing is the only way to calm my baby.  A few weeks ago, my daughter was admitted to the hospital where she was poked and prodded.  They needed to draw blood and administer intravenous fluids.  She was confused with her new surroundings, the strangers approaching her, and an uncomfortable bed.  It is hard as the parent to see your child’s little body go through trauma.  She would have panic cries each time the medical staff would check her vitals.  It was so heart breaking. In order to soothe her, I spent quite a bit of time singing her nursery rhymes.  Luckily, through the suggestion of a veteran mother, we have been listening to …

Letting Go

“The Tao Te Ching says, When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need. Have you ever struggled to find work or love, only to find them after you have given up? This is the paradox of letting go. Let go, in order to achieve. Letting go is God’s law.” Two years ago I was deployed to an Undisclosed Location in Southwest Asia.  How the heck did I get there? I’m in the Air National Guard, a skilled communications member in support of Spartan Shield.  But before I was cleared to go on Thanksgiving Day a year prior I just had an ACL replacement, was attempting to start a family and was settled in a job I loved. Life was great, then why did I volunteer to head across the world? On this deployment, only being there a few weeks I admitted that I never wanted to have a baby more than I’ve had before.  Good place …

The Magic List

“Did you get your name on the list?”  They ask. “What list?”  I reply. “You know, THE list.” They respond. That pretty much is how a couple of my conversations begin when I meet a new mom.  I had no idea that I was going to have to start worrying about what pre-school my baby was going to attend for another few years.  When she was born I was already told, you better call and get your baby’s name on the list.  I know education is important, but the fact that some parents put their name on the pre-school list even before they have confirmed that they have conceived is truly amazing. When I started to call around Hilo, I found that there are some preschools that have a set academic curriculum.  I thought pre-school was about socializing and having fun.  I look back at the photos of when I attended pre-school and they are of me and the other kids visiting the community, such as Life Care Center, or making crafts.  But, I guess …

Learning to Let Go

The Hands Free Revolution recently posted an excerpt from Deborah Bryan’s blog that truly resonated with me.  Just reading the first few lines I started to get misty eyed. Those who know me well, know that I am not a very emotional person. I am not one to spend so much time contemplating a decision based on how I feel. But, rather make decisions from a logical and analytical perspective. “How are you?” What once seemed like a simple polite way to greet someone has turned me into an emotional hot mess.  How can these three words cause me so much grief?  Lately, I have been struggling with letting go of the inevitable that my baby is growing up and though I want to spend every waking hour with her and protect her from any danger or pitfalls, she needs to learn to survive in this world.  I have also been struggling with who will be her caregiver while I return to work full-time.  What once would have been an automatic response of, “my parents …

Finding Balance… work hard, play hard

Summer surely is flying on by. “Mom, when are we going to da hotel?” Kodee asks. “Next Week,” I responded.  Oh my, next week is now!  In preparation for the weekend … a mom’s work is never done!  Laundry, tidying up, packing… oh joy! But seriously, spending time with my family and creating new childhood memories for my keiki are my top priorities.  Though with long hours at work, never ending “to do” task lists, and meetings on the outer islands, making quality time for my family is challenging.  Who knew  balancing a career and family would be a work of art! But this weekend… oh, it’s on! Let’s do this!  As I leave behind my worries and stresses at work, and start the weekend present with my ohana, motherhood (and wife-hood!) sets in and life goes on. I strive to live with this approach in mind … Work hard, play hard! Packed snacks, stopped for ice and off we went to Waikoloa for our staycation!  The open road and drive to Waikoloa was beautiful and serene.  Upon our arrival to …

Babywearing Culture

As first time parents, my husband and I were struggling to soothe our infant daughter while getting our tasks done around the hale. After several inquiries, but mostly at the recommendation of my sister-in-law, I was advised to look into acquiring a Ring Sling Wrap (RSW). Not knowing what this was, I googled it online. With the RSW, the tautness of the material is adjusted via two rings on your shoulder. You carry your baby in the wrap, which enables you to have your hands free. We chose two RSW, a Maya Wrap (Maya) and a Sakura Bloom (SB). My husband loves his cotton Maya, while I prefer the linen SB. Since our baby weighs less than 15lbs carrying her in the RSW is manageable. Several friends also suggested a Soft Structured Carrier (SSC), such as the Ergo Baby. We only started using our SSC as baby’s neck got stronger. The advantage of the SSC is that it’s great for hikes since it has padded shoulder straps. During my pregnancy, my mother, the resourceful person …

I Stay Hungry!

Sniff. Sniff. Is that huli huli chicken? Mmmhh…smells like curry. Oh, no, down wind I think I smell pesto pasta. I thought I was supposed to have an over enhanced sense of smell and be craving everything and anything out of the ordinary while pregnant, not after! It so happens that during my pregnancy I hardly craved anything. Um, I take that back, I wanted to eat everything I could not eat – opihi, sashimi, deli sandwiches, and sprouts! I think I was paranoid of what I could not eat, that I was cautious of what I ate. I was careful how much weight I put on, too. I heard if I put on too much weight I would have a difficult labor and have an on set of gestational diabetes and/or preeclampsia (high blood pressure). I was so scared about having any complications, I was very strict with my diet, and only ate what I needed for a healthy pregnancy. I was lucky that I was satisfied with the meals I ate, and didn’t …

Happy Father’s Day, Daddy!

Father’s Day is only a week away and it will mark my husband’s biggest milestone as a father.  He has joined the ranks of fatherhood, reminding him to continuously love, care and protect our daughter.  This special day also reminds me of the relationship I have with my dad, and the one my daughter will have with my husband and my dad. As a child, my dad had to work long hours and did not have the opportunity to spend time raising me.  Now retired, he is able to take his time navigating through all the intricacies of caring for a baby.  Seeing him change my daughter’s diaper, bottle feed followed by burping her, and of course comforting her when she cries, brings tears to my eyes.  My mom points out that he never did those things with me when I was an infant, primarily because he was exhausted from working and when he was up and ready to start his day, it was time for me to bed down. I am fortunate that my …

Onekahakaha Beach Park

Pringles, tuna relish sandwiches, RC cola, Coppertone sunscreen and my pink Strawberry Shortcake swimsuit are the treasured memories I have of the “shi shi” beach. As a youth, almost daily, especially during the summer months, my mom would pack up the car and take me to Onekahakaha Beach Park located in Keaukaha. Being an only child and with family living abroad, it usually was just my mom and I, on these outings. But once at the beach, we always met other locals or mainland visitors, and eventually made some really good friends. Late Friday afternoon, I had the opportunity to meet up with some sweet mamas and their keiki from the Big Island Babywearing Group at Onekahakaha Beach Park. It has been close to 30 years since I went back to this keiki friendly beach. The Hawai’i County Parks and Recreation has done a fabulous job of updating the pavilions, improving the landscape to avoid all the recurring puddles, and putting in more picnic benches and grass for families to layout and play. Seeing the …