Kainoa, NaBloPoMo, Transitions

Practice Makes Perfect

Confidence: Are you good at what you do? What would you like to be better at?

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act, but a habit.” ―Aristotle

People often assume that acquiring new skills and knowledge comes easy for me. The reality is, I pick things up with very little effort at first, but it takes considerable observation and steady practice to commit them to memory. Whether it’s reading or listening to something continuously or dancing/chanting songs over and over again to be able to successfully recall without a hitch, repetition and application are key to my confidence. I’ve employed this tactic in everything I’ve done in my life and it seems to work… except for when it comes to weaving bags from coconut fronds (My tactile and ancestral memories for weaving are underdeveloped, so it’s taking me a while).

What I have not practiced enough and therefore am not confident doing, is publicly expressing love. Sure, I can say it in private, but it’s never been easy to articulate beyond the confines of a familiar space. Telling someone I love them is uncomfortable when other people are around. Perhaps it was my upbringing or my natural introversion, but it’s exacerbated by the fact that a lot of the time, I’m “in my head”. My sentences start with, “I think”, “It sounds like”, “I hear”, and not “I feel” or “I sense”. Some may believe it’s not a bad thing to function in the land of the cerebral, but the truth is, not everyone does. To truly relate to people, on a human level, the ability to comfortably express emotion is a must.

I don’t normally linger in the realm of feelings and vulnerability, but increasing the frequency and time to get in touch with articulating emotion is important. Part of getting older means growing more sentimental, so this is a life skill that’s long overdue.

Daily Prompt: I Have Confidence in Me: http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2013/11/24/daily-prompt-confident/